A Big Girl and Her Cardigans…

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A few years ago I was sitting in church, when one of the deacons daughters climbed into the pew in front of me. I love talking to kids, so having a 10 minute conversation with a seven year old isn’t a big deal to me. We began chatting about school, her teacher and her friends; then she looked at me,

“I like your dress,” she said putting her hands underneath her chin.

“Oh, thank you” I smiled.

“You wear THOSE a lot,” she observed pointing at my cardigan sweater.

I paused (man, little people really pay attention to everything!)

“You’re right, I do! I actually have one in every color… kinda crazy, right?” I laughed. She laughed and then we went back to discussing her playground dramas.

I got home and peeked into my closet, there on the hangers was all the proof I needed. Clearly, I had a very intense cardigan sweater addiction passion.

Back when I refused to show my arms, cardigans were the answer to all of my sleeveless/strapless dress problems. I also felt like the draping of my cardigans hid my tummy and love handles well when I was wearing jeans. I found myself making regular shopping trips for $20 cardigans and my collection of colorful cardigans grew and grew overtime. Cardigans became a staple in my wardrobe. Cardigans became a comfort blanket in my closet, a piece of clothing that made me feel like the jiggly parts of my body were hidden.

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You can scoop up my polka dot dress here

I knew I had a cardigan addiction when I tried to throw a button down cardi over a freakum dress. (Girl, bye!)

I knew I had a cardigan addiction when I refused to take my cardi off while waiting for the train in the hot, humid subway station one summer. (*faints*)

I knew I had a cardigan addiction when I brought a cardi to wear over a strapless bridesmaids “in case it got cold” in the middle of July. (Um, no.)

Breaking my cardigan addiction meant I had to address the real reason I was wearing them constantly. I was wearing cardigans to hide my body and it was getting out of hand. Cardigans had gone from making me a little more comfortable, to dictating what I would/wouldn’t wear. They went from give me a confidence boost to holding me back. I had to take control of my own body image. Let’s be honest, all of the cardigans in the world would not change my size or weight. (read more on that in “You Can’t Hide the Fat“)

Slowly overtime I’ve put cardigans in their proper place in my wardrobe. I wear them a lot for work because its cold in my office and it helps me transition some of my more casual dresses into work wear. You’ll notice a lot of cardigans in my twerking Vlog below because I was hanging out in my work clothes, but on weekends and when I’m out at night, I have a “no cardis allowed” rule that keeps me from getting too dependent on my old comfort blanket.

I had to throw cardigans and shrugs out the window along with “black is slimming” and other nonsense that I convinced myself of. Maybe next month, I’ll try to do 30 days with no cardigans at all, just to be sure I’ve really kicked the habit.

Do you wear a lot of cardians or have a different kind of “fashion comfort blanket” that makes you feel like your trouble spots are hidden?

Oh, and check out this weeks PSP in NYC Vlog :-)

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  • http://www.potentially-lovely.com Jessica Yeager

    This is a powerful addiction! I am in the middle of it. HATE my arms. I am going to make a great effort this spring/summer to let me arms out. Whats worse? Not loving your arms or giant sweat spots under each arm, right?! Lol. Awesome point girl! http://www.potentially-lovely.com

  • http://www.potentially-lovely.com Jessica Yeager

    This is a powerful addiction! I am in the middle of it. HATE my arms. I am going to make a great effort this spring/summer to let me arms out. Whats worse? Not loving your arms or giant sweat spots under each arm, right?! Lol. Awesome point girl! http://www.potentially-lovely.com

  • Samantha Dorris Costanza

    I have to wear them because everything they make for plus size is sleeveless or strapless. I hate wearing layers but feel I have no choice as I will never show my upper arms.

    • CeCe Olisa

      Yeah, I used to be like that too… then I realized that people aren’t really looking and the less I cared the more liberated I felt haha

  • Samantha Dorris Costanza

    I have to wear them because everything they make for plus size is sleeveless or strapless. I hate wearing layers but feel I have no choice as I will never show my upper arms.

    • CeCe Olisa

      Yeah, I used to be like that too… then I realized that people aren’t really looking and the less I cared the more liberated I felt haha

  • Tiffany

    Hey, nothing wrong with having tons of cardi’s! I absolutely love them. I have batwings, so I don’t like to wear them out all the time. Besides, I like to have them to add a splash of color when I have my all black everything days. :)
    Tiffany @ http://www.uniquely-chic.com

    • CeCe Olisa

      Nothing wrong with it, but being a slave to them was no bueno for me ;-)

  • Tiffany

    Hey, nothing wrong with having tons of cardi’s! I absolutely love them. I have batwings, so I don’t like to wear them out all the time. Besides, I like to have them to add a splash of color when I have my all black everything days. :)
    Tiffany @ http://www.uniquely-chic.com

    • CeCe Olisa

      Nothing wrong with it, but being a slave to them was no bueno for me ;-)

  • JennieC

    Haha, very timely because I was just trying to figure out how to hustle some Summer cardis for super cheap for work. I go through them so fast, I swear. Also, do you know the name of that black Asos dress you held up? It looks like a maxi and is really cute! I struggle trying to find things on their website… Thanks, CeCe!

    • thebiggirlblog

      That dress was part of the preview, so it hasn’t been released yet, BUT they have some black maxis on site now. here’s one that doesn’t require a cardi LOL http://bit.ly/1hLX2IA

  • JennieC

    Haha, very timely because I was just trying to figure out how to hustle some Summer cardis for super cheap for work. I go through them so fast, I swear. Also, do you know the name of that black Asos dress you held up? It looks like a maxi and is really cute! I struggle trying to find things on their website… Thanks, CeCe!

    • thebiggirlblog

      That dress was part of the preview, so it hasn’t been released yet, BUT they have some black maxis on site now. here’s one that doesn’t require a cardi LOL http://bit.ly/1hLX2IA

  • Lucy Dorphin

    So I am now finally break the “black-is-slimming/wear only dark colors” attitude I had for YEARS, Because I love dark colors. I actually really like tank-tops and sleeveless things, but I have noticed that when I do wear cardigans (Mostly in winter, it’s too hot where I live to wear them outside of fall/winter), I always button them up because I feel like when they’re open they show all my fat? I am getting a lot better about loving my body, but I still have those negative-fat thoughts sometimes with certain clothes…

  • Lucy Dorphin

    So I am now finally break the “black-is-slimming/wear only dark colors” attitude I had for YEARS, Because I love dark colors. I actually really like tank-tops and sleeveless things, but I have noticed that when I do wear cardigans (Mostly in winter, it’s too hot where I live to wear them outside of fall/winter), I always button them up because I feel like when they’re open they show all my fat? I am getting a lot better about loving my body, but I still have those negative-fat thoughts sometimes with certain clothes…

  • BlueIris

    I love my cardi’s and can not part with them. Like everyone else here, I hate my arms, so I will never go sleeveless. Lane Bryant had some wonderful light weight short sleeve cardi’s last summer and I think I bought 6 different colors. When one of them wore out, I literally wanted to cry. I give you HUGE props for getting over your bare arm phobia, but I will never get there.

  • BlueIris

    I love my cardi’s and can not part with them. Like everyone else here, I hate my arms, so I will never go sleeveless. Lane Bryant had some wonderful light weight short sleeve cardi’s last summer and I think I bought 6 different colors. When one of them wore out, I literally wanted to cry. I give you HUGE props for getting over your bare arm phobia, but I will never get there.

  • Tanja

    I love cardigans! I got them in all shapes, sizes and colors. I’m always on the lookout for a thin, nice, black cardigan with 3/4 sleeves. Yup, there you go, black + cardigan combined is my ultimate comfort! lol
    Now, I do not think I’m the only one in this, because guess what….. I have been seeing quite a few maxi dresses with sleeves for this Spring. Not yet sure what to think of it, as some seem rather matronly, but I do like the effort they are making to listen to us. I’m going to try out a few, see if I like them, otherwise it’s back to the cardigans. Yay! :)

  • Tanja

    I love cardigans! I got them in all shapes, sizes and colors. I’m always on the lookout for a thin, nice, black cardigan with 3/4 sleeves. Yup, there you go, black + cardigan combined is my ultimate comfort! lol
    Now, I do not think I’m the only one in this, because guess what….. I have been seeing quite a few maxi dresses with sleeves for this Spring. Not yet sure what to think of it, as some seem rather matronly, but I do like the effort they are making to listen to us. I’m going to try out a few, see if I like them, otherwise it’s back to the cardigans. Yay! :)

  • Stefanie Loves

    I like Cardigans but not to cover up anything. I usually wear them in Fall/Winter to stay warm and sometimes I take one with my in summer in case it might get colder in the evening. I am not obsessed with sleeveless clothes but I don’t really care if I find something I like and it has no sleeves.

    http://stefanieloves.wordpress.com/

  • Stefanie Loves

    I like Cardigans but not to cover up anything. I usually wear them in Fall/Winter to stay warm and sometimes I take one with my in summer in case it might get colder in the evening. I am not obsessed with sleeveless clothes but I don’t really care if I find something I like and it has no sleeves.

    http://stefanieloves.wordpress.com/

  • Poet Shay Butter

    i cover my chubby arms

  • Poet Shay Butter

    i cover my chubby arms

  • Thickness Tees

    I think I might be one of the few plus size chicks that don’t rock cardigans…I like seeing them on other people…but I think they box me out….

  • Thickness Tees

    I think I might be one of the few plus size chicks that don’t rock cardigans…I like seeing them on other people…but I think they box me out….

  • Tikeetha Thomas

    Definitely for work, but less when it’s hot outside. I love cardigans. I hate my arms too, but I’m working them out.

  • Tikeetha Thomas

    Definitely for work, but less when it’s hot outside. I love cardigans. I hate my arms too, but I’m working them out.

  • Tashie

    In high school, I wore my black zip up hoodie with everything. Mind you, I live in
    Hawaii! I was so insecure with my arms that I didn’t care if it was 90 degrees,
    that hoodie was staying on. I got over that comfort, and “bared arms” for a
    while, but I must say I think I’ve now convinced myself that I NEED to wear
    cardigans. I’m probably the only one sporting them in the clubs too. But, I
    should take a break from them, other than utilizing them for work, and build my
    confidence back up. Thank you for your continuous inspiration!

  • Tashie

    In high school, I wore my black zip up hoodie with everything. Mind you, I live in
    Hawaii! I was so insecure with my arms that I didn’t care if it was 90 degrees,
    that hoodie was staying on. I got over that comfort, and “bared arms” for a
    while, but I must say I think I’ve now convinced myself that I NEED to wear
    cardigans. I’m probably the only one sporting them in the clubs too. But, I
    should take a break from them, other than utilizing them for work, and build my
    confidence back up. Thank you for your continuous inspiration!

  • April

    I like cardigans & used to use them (and denim jackets) to cover my big arms. Now, when it gets hot the last thing I’m thinking about is what my arms look like. These days, I do like to keep a variety of colors to wear with my summer maxi dresses, as they make these dresses more appropriate for work when the weather is warm. I’m a teacher and don’t feel comfortable wearing strapless, sleeveless, or spaghetti-strap styles in my classroom.

  • April

    I like cardigans & used to use them (and denim jackets) to cover my big arms. Now, when it gets hot the last thing I’m thinking about is what my arms look like. These days, I do like to keep a variety of colors to wear with my summer maxi dresses, as they make these dresses more appropriate for work when the weather is warm. I’m a teacher and don’t feel comfortable wearing strapless, sleeveless, or spaghetti-strap styles in my classroom.

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