My Online Dating Mistakes… (Video)


When I first started online dating I made so many rookie mistakes. I chose the wrong site, put up the wrong pics and said the wrong things. If you’re trying to get boo’d up in 2014 and online dating is part of your plan, these are the things not to do! Feel free to share your online dating mis-steps below… each one, teach one!

Mistake #1 I paid for online dating sites – in the end I had the most fun meeting guys on free sites. I was able to cast a wide net and I didn’t see every connection as something I had paid for which made things feel a bit more organic.

Mistake #2 I only put up one perfectly cropped, high angle, boobs and face only picture – Once I learned to put multiple pictures on my profile, the guys I met in person were never surprised by my size. This made my in person dates much more relaxed. We are the size we are… the guys who skip us because they see our full body pics aren’t the guys who we need to be dating anyway… Don’t forget, guys do photo trickery too… remember the guy who had no teeth? Well, his photos hid that very well!

Mistake #3 I was so confused by the online dating “lingo” and I said things on my profile that made me seem… um… fast - When my profile made it seem like I only wanted to hook up, guys definitely treated me that way. Oops!

What online dating mistakes have you made?

  • vanessa jackson

    Be creative with your profile … don’t use the typical stuff that everyone else uses, like I like long walks on the beach, shopping and movies and dinner. Everyone says that…if you do use it make sure something up top catches their attention. I also added I “don’t send sexy photos” meaning no candid shots of my private parts which I have been asked for on several occasions and I’m in my late 40′s and grown men do this too.

    • thebiggirlblog

      Good suggestions :-) And we definitely need to talk about the pics request thing… It’s out of hand!!!

      • vanessa jackson

        I guess I should have added n no pics of their parts either!!! Whats up with that???

        • thebiggirlblog


  • Less

    A guy with no teeth? Now that sounds like a winning date. I’ve been thinking out paying for a dating site, but maybe I should hold off and explore the free sites a bit more.

    • thebiggirlblog

      LOL! It was pretty interesting…

  • c2268

    I’ve had the opposite experience with sites. I found the free ones to be terrible. I was constantly being contacted by felons and liars. I won’t pretend to have met the man of my dreams on a pay site (the only one I tried was Black People, but they were definitely better than the ones I met on POF.Com. Unfortunately, I haven’t had much luck with online dating. Almost all of the men I’ve met have been shy and socially awkward. I just can’t handle that. But, it’s always interesting to read someone else’s positive experience.

    • thebiggirlblog

      POF is rough but my friend met her amazing husband on there, so who knows! I feel like my experience was positive because I wasn’t her looking for “him” ya know? I was just dating for fun… The good old days lol

      • Vanessa

        I met my Fiance on POF and we’ll be getting married in 5 months! That being said, we joke/gringe, when we tell people we met on that website because before we met each other we had met some doozies off that site. But again, it goes to show that you can’t give up, had we, we would’ve never met each other and THAT would’ve been a shame.

  • c2268

    By the way, I think you’re awesome. I saw you on Amanda’s channel and had to start reading your blog. You (and Amanda) are just bursting with positivity. You’re also very beautiful. Please keep up the good work.

    • thebiggirlblog

      Such kind words, thank you soooo much!! xoxo

  • LaVonna Sky

    I haven’t had any luck on the paid or free sites. I just gave up on dating period. I’m an introverted person so if online dating wouldn’t work for me, I know meeting someone in a casual setting is not going to work,

    • thebiggirlblog

      Give up dating, but stay open to whatever comes your way. Rumor has it that things come together when we stop looking… ;-)

  • PinkPanther

    I wrote too many things about me in the profile, so the guys didnt know what to ask :( But I´ve learned from it :)

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  • Krystal

    Thank you for the suggestions. I must admit though I’ve been online dating for over a year and I haven’t had much luck on okcupid or plenty of fish. I’m trying out match and seeing if that’ll be better. I’m hoping if people actually pay for it they actually want to date instead of just hook up :(

  • Sophie

    Thanks for sharing your experience, I’ve had been more lucky because one of my friend has recommended me be2, it’s a trustful website !