When He Says The Right Things….


I just got back from my first weekend trip with Robert. We went to Minnesota so I could sing in my friend’s wedding (Robert recorded it, you can watch me singing here).

Robert and I are complete opposites in every way. He is super laid back and can go with the flow, while I can get wound up over the littlest things. At some point during the weekend we stopped to get coffee and I was talking to him about something unrelated to him that wasn’t a huge deal. “I’m just venting,” I said “I know none of this matters to you…”

“If it matters to you, then it matters to me,” he said. Then he asked me some questions about what was bothering me and we talked it out.

I smiled between sips of coffee. With all of the Romantic Comedies I watch and the Boy Band music I (still) listen to, I have to remind myself to stop looking for grandiose gestures of affection all the time. Those things have their place, but relationships aren’t built on climbing up fire escapes with roses or love songs in five-part harmony.

Something as simple as Robert caring about dumb things because they’re important to me, shows me how far we’ve come, how comfortable I can be with him and how much he works to be a support system for me.

In love songs and RomCom’s, the guy says the right thing in the middle of the bustling city for all the world to hear. In real life the guy says the right thing at a coffee shop in Minnesota, you’re the only one who hears it… and its perfect.


  • Miss Maven

    That is just beautiful. I am so SO So so soooo happy for you.

    P.S, you should of told me you were in MN, I live in Eau Claire (about 30 min drive)

  • Vanessa

    Thank you for reminding us all of this. The little things at the right time are perfect and should be treasured just as much, if not more, than the big gestures.

  • tiffany mallory

    Awwwe this a great reminder because I too get caught up in the whole prince charming romance and love songs. You guys are the cutest couple!!!

  • JayFay

    Sweet. Sounds like you’re a lucky girl! Does Robert have any flaws?

    • thebiggirlblog

      Of course, but I love him too much to blog about them ;-)

      • JayFay

        Fair enough! ;) If he has any tall, single, intelligent, Christian friends, be sure to let us (*ahem* me) know… :D

  • AReno

    So glad you had a great time in MN and so happy I got to see you :). You are so right that it is the little things that make all the difference. Sadly so many of us are waiting for the big gestures that we aren’t paying attention to the small ones that are personal. I am so lucky to have found my Robert too.