I Gave Him My Number (Part 3)

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My phone chimed with a text message…

-I want to see you

It was Brian, the 6’4, chocolate-brown hottie I had given my number to in a random moment of super self-confidence.

It had been a week since our steamy first date, and we’d been talking on the phone and texting every day. I knew I had to be careful with Brian because our attraction was so intense. The chemistry we had in just our eye contact was enough to pull me out of my comfort zone and make me give him my number. The chemistry we had on the dance floor was enough to make me break my rules about first date kissing. I knew it was a slippery slope with him because I wanted him physically but I was looking for something more than just mutual attraction. I was ready for a relationship and I needed to make sure I got to know more about Brian before things went any further. I sent him a text back

-I’m free tonight, where do you want to go?

(Side Note: When I text a guy “what do you want to do?” 99% of the time it sends their mind straight to the gutter and I get a sexual response, but asking “where do you want to go?” lets them know that I’m looking for a get to know you/dating situation). He texted back:

-Lets go to the movies

-Cool, when do you want to pick me up?

-How about we just meet at the theater. 9pm?

I frowned a bit at him not wanting to pick me up properly, especially since he’d be passing my apartment in order to get to the theater downtown. But I brushed off my annoyance and agreed to meet him at 9pm.

Around 7:30, as I was getting out of the shower, I got a phone call, but it was “Private”. Normally I ignore blocked numbers but every once in a while curiosity gets the best of me,

“Hello?”

“Yeah, who’s number is this?” a woman’s voice answered.

“Excuse me?”

“Who’s number have I reached? What’s your name?” she pressed.

“You called my phone, so maybe you should let me know who you are…” I said slowly.

There was a pause.

“Do you know someone named Brian?” the voice said.

My heart dropped.

“No, sorry… I don’t,” I sighed.

“Are you sure?” she said, I could hear the exasperation in her voice. “I’m his girlfriend and I found this number in his phone.”

“I don’t know him,” I said. Which was the truth… two weeks of talking on the phone, a date and a make-out session clearly doesn’t mean you know a person.

There was no way I was going to act out some Brandy and Monica “The Boy is Mine” drama with this girl over Brian. She could have him. I hung up the phone, threw on my fuzzy robe, poured a glass of wine and curled up on my couch.

At 9:15 Brian started calling to see where I was, I ignored his calls. At 9:30, he sent a text.

-Hey gorgeous, are you close?

-Your girlfriend called me, good luck with that.

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  • Issa

    Noooooooooooo!!!!! UGH!!! This made me want to throw my phone. So sorry you had to go through that BS. SMH

  • BlueSky

    So mad your story ended this way!!! I too starting dating a guy (thankfully briefly) that I discovered wasn’t single. Worse yet, he was married with a young child. I am so thankful that I didn’t break my rule of sleeping with someone to soon. Many of my friends thought I should contact his wife to let her know what a slime ball her husband was. As much as I felt badly for her and felt she had a right to know, I decided not get wrapped up in drama that was not my own.

  • tiffany mallory

    This sucks, typical the ones that seem to give off such great chemistry are dogs! I have gone through this same thing but i wasn’t as smart as you were. Do glad you are happy with Robert now. You can look back and not be bitter about such situations.

  • janice crayton

    The same story!! ugh……. but keep a positive spirit…. thats what I tell myself!!!!

  • http://twitter.com/Rebekah__Jo Rebekah Jo

    I think we all have one of these guys in our history….sadly! It’s ridiculous that men act this way, but I think you handled it very well.

  • Tiffany Todd

    Douche Bag!!! But you handle yourself very well cause that’s what a really princess does always act like a lady lol!!

  • Alicia

    Good for you. some women would of went out with him any way. You handle yourself very well.

  • mariacraw

    So glad you listened to your instincts and were open to the possibility that he was a dog!
    Better to find out before you are emotionally invested in him instead of just chemistry. If you want a dog adopt from the pound!

  • http://twitter.com/HopeVarnedoe Hope Varnedoe

    i am so sorry but really respect the way you handled the situation

  • JipC

    This seems to be a theme with BBW women….unfortunately! I am another victim of it. We have a tendency to be magnets for jerks that want to cheat. Too many avenues online for men to find a way to cheat and for some reason they gravitate to BBW because they think we are that hard up for love……I’d rather go without then to be with someone like that. There are men out there that are perfect gentlemen….it’s just very hard to find them. Stick to your morals girls!!

  • ttowndiva

    kudos to you for handling that with such poise. Personally I would have told his g/f about his cheating ways, but that isn’t your drama so its prolly best that you stayed out.

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