Filed Under: Dating
My phone chimed with a text message…
-I want to see you
It was Brian, the 6’4, chocolate-brown hottie I had given my number to in a random moment of super self-confidence.
It had been a week since our steamy first date, and we’d been talking on the phone and texting every day. I knew I had to be careful with Brian because our attraction was so intense. The chemistry we had in just our eye contact was enough to pull me out of my comfort zone and make me give him my number. The chemistry we had on the dance floor was enough to make me break my rules about first date kissing. I knew it was a slippery slope with him because I wanted him physically but I was looking for something more than just mutual attraction. I was ready for a relationship and I needed to make sure I got to know more about Brian before things went any further. I sent him a text back
-I’m free tonight, where do you want to go?
(Side Note: When I text a guy “what do you want to do?” 99% of the time it sends their mind straight to the gutter and I get a sexual response, but asking “where do you want to go?” lets them know that I’m looking for a get to know you/dating situation). He texted back:
-Lets go to the movies
-Cool, when do you want to pick me up?
-How about we just meet at the theater. 9pm?
I frowned a bit at him not wanting to pick me up properly, especially since he’d be passing my apartment in order to get to the theater downtown. But I brushed off my annoyance and agreed to meet him at 9pm.
Around 7:30, as I was getting out of the shower, I got a phone call, but it was “Private”. Normally I ignore blocked numbers but every once in a while curiosity gets the best of me,
“Yeah, who’s number is this?” a woman’s voice answered.
“Who’s number have I reached? What’s your name?” she pressed.
“You called my phone, so maybe you should let me know who you are…” I said slowly.
There was a pause.
“Do you know someone named Brian?” the voice said.
My heart dropped.
“No, sorry… I don’t,” I sighed.
“Are you sure?” she said, I could hear the exasperation in her voice. “I’m his girlfriend and I found this number in his phone.”
“I don’t know him,” I said. Which was the truth… two weeks of talking on the phone, a date and a make-out session clearly doesn’t mean you know a person.
There was no way I was going to act out some Brandy and Monica “The Boy is Mine” drama with this girl over Brian. She could have him. I hung up the phone, threw on my fuzzy robe, poured a glass of wine and curled up on my couch.
At 9:15 Brian started calling to see where I was, I ignored his calls. At 9:30, he sent a text.
-Hey gorgeous, are you close?
-Your girlfriend called me, good luck with that.