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The other day Robert made a comment about me looking older than I actually am. Needless to say, I flipped out. Most women are sensitive about looking old and even though I’m still in my twenties, I’m always whining about “getting old”.
Now, before you all jump down Roberts throat… let me say that when he saw how upset I was he took the time to explain what he meant. He said that I dress well, I live on my own and most of my close friends are in their late 30′s so, if he just met me he would assume that I was a little older than I actually am. I wasn’t ready to let him off the hook completely, but then he went on to say that he probably chose the wrong words; he didn’t mean that I “look old” but that I “seem mature”.
I forgave him, so you should too.
When I got home I started thinking about why his comment upset me so much. I slowly realized that in my head when someone comments on me looking older, I take it as a comment on my weight. I’ve been a Plus Size Princess since I was young and it’s always caused people to think I was older than I was.
-When I was 11 people thought my infant sister was my daughter (awkward.)
-When I was 16 a “guess your age” lady at Six Flags thought I was 24 (kinda cool?)
-When I was 17 someone asked my Dad if I was his wife (mortifying!)
When I was a teen PSP, looking older had its advantages. If I walked into a liquor store with enough confidence, I could buy bottles of Vodka for my friends and not get carded. Now that I’m over 21, looking older is obnoxious. If one more 40-year-old store clerk calls me “Ma’am” I think I’m going to cry.
For years, I’ve assumed that my weight aged me and I’ve looked forward to knocking a few years off myself when I dropped some poundage. But I’m starting to wonder if it’s that simple….
I was tweeting with some Plus Size Princesses on Monday and the subject of Celebrity Weight Loss came up. Everyone has something to say when our plus size celebs lose drastic amounts of weight. When large women become waifs, I usually hear everyone say that they prefer them just a *little* curvier. Remember when Star Jones had gastric bypass? Then there’s Kirstie Alley in all her various sizes and of course, the ex-PSP of the moment, Jennifer Hudson.
I started to look up images of ex-PSP’s and began to realize that everyone is concerned with how they look from the neck down, but no one talks about what your face looks like when you lose weight. As I mentioned on Twitter, I’m pretty sure if I was a size 6 like J.Hud, I’d look like a bobble head. That’s not the look I’m going for.
As some celebs lose weight their facial lines become more prominent making them look… older than they did when they were big. Perhaps the fat fills out the wrinkles… if so, there goes my whole theory about looking older because I’m bigger!
What do you think… Does weight age you?