Curvy Conversations: Why Do You Want to Lose Weight?

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I’m crazy about you, CeCe but I don’t understand the reason for you wanting to lose weight? Your blog is called The Big Girl Blog, but maybe you should change the name? I’m not judging you, every one has to do what’s best for them, but I feel like you should be careful about falling into the trap of another plus-size princess who advertises her site as a place where readers can come to read about your adventures, but you also share weight-loss tips. My problem with dieting? Most people gain the weight back and then some within 5 years. Maybe you won’t . . . Anyway, good luck on your exercise journey, and if you are trying to lose weight, I hope you are doing it for the right reasons.

The note above came from a reader who comments on TBGB often named Piper. I love Piper, she’s supportive, opinionated and keeps in touch via the blog and facebook fan page. When I read her comment, it kind of caught me off guard. I feel like I’m pretty open about my health goals but if she’s feeling like this maybe other people are too. So I’ll address her note and hopefully clear things up for anyone who has questions/concerns about the weight loss aspect of this blog.

What is the reason for you wanting to lose weight?

I have Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and weight is directly connected with the side effects of that condition. When I keep my weight down my periods are regular, my face is clear and my testosterone levels come down. Many women with PCOS have to lose weight before they can get pregnant. If I can lose weight now, maybe when the time comes for me to have kids, it wont be so hard.

Your blog is called The Big Girl Blog, but maybe you should change the name?

My blog is called The Big Girl Blog, not The Curvy Girl Blog or The Thick Girl Blog or anything like that. I am not curvy or thick… I am a Big Girl. Seriously, I could lose a significant amount of weight and still be plus size… As I’ve said before, I’m 99% sure I will be plus size for the rest of my life. It seems like that’s what my body is designed to be, I just think it will be healthier if I’m on the smaller end of plus.

I’m not judging you, every one has to do what’s best for them, but I feel like you should be careful about falling into the trap of another plus-size princess who advertises her site as a place where readers can come to read about your adventures, but you also share weight-loss tips.

You are judging me… and I’m okay with that haha! By sharing the intimate details of my life here I have to be prepared for judgement. This is a place where readers can come to read my adventures and part of that is weight loss. If something works for me, I’m going to share it just like I share the clothing brands I like. TBGB is my story, and weight loss attempts are a part of that– I’m honest with you guys about everything and I’m not going to start censoring myself.

My problem with dieting? Most people gain the weight back and then some within 5 years. Maybe you won’t…

I don’t think you ever hear me use the word “diet” because that’s not what I’m doing… I’m on a journey to be as healthy as I can. Weight loss comes with that. I’ve lost 60+ pounds on diets before and you’re right… I did gain it back. But again, I never ever said I was dieting. I talk about fitness goals and health goals but not dieting. I hope you’re not projecting what you read on other blogs onto mine, be sure to read what you see, not what you think I’m saying.

Anyway, good luck on your exercise journey, and if you are trying to lose weight, I hope you are doing it for the right reasons.

Thanks Piper! Thanks for your concern and voicing your opinion. You’re a long time reader and supporter of TBGB. I appreciate you and I love that you feel comfortable enough to tell me what you’re thinking… hopefully I’ve answered your questions and put you at ease that I’m being true to myself.

xoxo,

CeCe

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  • Anonymous

    Love that u addressed this post!
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  • http://twitter.com/DanielleZIntern Danielle Mair

    As long as your loosing weight because you want to and it’s for your health and body image I think there is no way that you can go wrong. Being plus size doesnt mean being unhealthy.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=502308041 Danielle Bowling

    ALSO I think, from myself, that yes losing weight for yourself is a very good reason, but sometimes it helps to have other reasons. I want to lose weight so that I am healthy and happy with my body, but…I also wanna look great in a bikini one day :)

  • Dena Upton

    I see nothing wrong with your blog being about you being a big girl and you mentioning attempts at weight loss. What big girl doesn’t attempt to lose weight at some point. What small girl doesn’t. All women, I feel, try to lose weight at some point for whatever reason. It’s your journey. Do you girl! I like hearing about all aspects of your life!

  • Cat Sharp

    I’m a big girl AND I’m losing weight. I’m doing it for the right reasons: because I want to be healthy and active, and my lifestyle was leading me to an early grave. This time I won’t gain the weight back because I made an actual lifestyle change. I am proud of being a big girl and I am proud of my weight loss so far. Losing weight doesn’t change who I am, it just changes the package I’m in.
    Love your answers to her questions! And thanks for a great blog!

  • Trezlen

    I see nothing wrong with being a big girl and trying to take care of yourself. I’m in the boat with you: No matter how much weight I lose I’m going to be a big girl–unless they figure out a way to retract my hips and shoulders. Being a big girl does not mean that I have to wallow in being fat (yep, I’m fat!). I want to be fit enough to be go for a walk or a hike or dance and not feel like I am sucking up all the air trying to catch my breath. And, it will also help with my asthma. More power, CeCe!

  • Anna Stamat

    CeCe ~ best wishes on your health quest. I am over 50 & have PCOS. You are on the right track, especially if your goal is to have children. I tried for many years with no luck. It is going to be a struggle — as you already know, there are good and bad days. If you have a bad day, just work on doing your best the next day. The biggest thing is like you said, remain true to yourself. Blessings!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/anna.stamat Anna Stamat

    CeCe ~ best wishes on your health quest. I am over 50 & have PCOS. You are on the right track, especially if your goal is to have children. I tried for many years with no luck. It is going to be a struggle — as you already know, there are good and bad days. If you have a bad day, just work on doing your best the next day. The biggest thing is like you said, remain true to yourself. Blessings!!!

  • Sarah with an H

    I’m totally with you on this one CeCe!! I’m a “whole lotta woman” also and even when I get to my goal I will still be a 14/16 – that’s just how the cookie crumbles. However, just because I am a big girl doesn’t mean that I’m gonna throw in the towel and not try to be healthy! I teach a Zumba class, work out on my own, and try to limit my carbs – that’s just what works for me…I think it’s good for other folks to see that fat people CAN be fit, healthy and so on…one thing I love about your blog is that you live such a full, interesting life. You’re not hiding in the shadows waiting until you slim down…keep on keepin’ on – you’re an inspiration!!

  • http://twitter.com/AlwaysForMe AlwaysForMe

    Your Health is the number one priority – no matter what size you are. Take care of yourself and the rest will follow.

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  • Messoutofthings

    Hi, I just found your blog (thanks google) and it could not have come at a better time! My husband and I have been trying to conceive for two years now and my obgyn said that there was no reason why we weren’t successful. A few weeks ago I changed doctors and found out that I have PCOS, I’m still devastated, ironically, I feel like less of a woman. I too am a “plus sized princess”, but am trying to loose a few so I can be a mom. 13 so far! Thanks for being so open about this, it made my day.

    • Anonymous

      Hi & Welcome! Google is the best matchmaker haha… you’ll get there! I tweeted the other day that TWO people I know with PCOS are now preggers. xoxo

  • http://loseweighthow.org/home/ StephanieH

    Hi CeCe! This is a really great blog post and I totally agree with other peole who have commented on it – your health is in the first place! You can feel good also in a big body – it’s nothing wrong about it, but it’s wrong to spend your life feeling bad in your own body fighting with health problems. I really appreciate your courage to speak about it loud! You are inspiring people to lose weight because of just one essential and truly important reason – health. Thank you!

  • Anasnowdon

    Hi CeCe! it is so refreshing to have someone talk so openly about losing weight when they have a plus size blog. A couple of years ago I wrote regularly in my own, and also blogged about my diet and exercise because it was MY blog and MY life. However when I asked a fellow blogger to be featured in a plus size blog roll she rejected me quite harshly, saying that she wanted it to be a “safe community” like I was going to go in there full steam ahead and suggest everyone looses weight! It made me feel like I was insulting the whole plus sized blogging community by calling my blog a plus sized one yet blogging about eating healthier and going to the gym, two things that I loved doing. I deleted my whole fashion blog in a fit of shame. I have been fat shamed my whole life, and when I was actually doing something to shift the weight (which I made clear was my personal choice and not pushing onto others) I was criticized yet again. I just couldn’t win. I’m an extremely firm believer in Health At Every Size, and I applaud you openly supporting any woman, whatever size they are, for taking control and getting themselves into the shape they want. You’ve really inspired me and now I have a fitness blog to record my weightloss – 10lbs so far! Thank You, Anna (Newcastle, Great Britain)$