Dating on a Diet: If I Were a Boy….


If I were a boy…
Even just for a day…
I’d roll outta bed in the morning
Say “forget my morning workout” and go…
Drink beer with the guys…
Eat fries that curl…
Eat hot wings when I wanted
And I’d never get confronted for it.
Cause fat wont stick to me…

In February, Robert and I both hatched a plan. My plan was to eat more fruits and veggies, drink at least 32oz of water a day, hit the gym 4 days a week and bring my lunch to work. His plan was to stop drinking soda and eat salad for lunch once a week. We both followed through on our plans, I ordered light meals when we went out, postponed our dates so I could hit the gym first and he ate salads once a week. Six weeks later I had lost 15 pounds and Robert had lost… 15 pounds.

Roberts la-di-da attitude got him the same results as my sweat, tears and meticulous planning… WHY?!

*shakes fist to the sky*

While I think its great that Robert doesn’t struggle with his weight, it can sometimes mean bad news for me because these days I eat probably eat 40-50% of my meals with him. And we all know how hard it is to order a salad while seating across from someone who wants drinks, appetizers, and dessert with their meal.

The good news is that Robert isn’t the type that pressures me to lose weight. He’s super supportive of what I want to do and says that I inspire him to eat better/work out more, but at the same time he doesn’t see the point in deprivation.

For the past few weeks I’ve been inching close to the 20 pounds lost mark, but its not going as quickly as it should and I know its because of all the “extra” eating I’m doing with Robert. Last week I explained as much to him and told him I planned on being a stickler with my calorie intake with him (especially the calories that come from wine).

I’m starting to decipher between the meals that are just about spending time together and the meals that are about food. If we’re having dinner on a random Tuesday night, I’ll be “good”, but if we’re trying out a new restaurant that we’ve been eying I’ll let myself order whatever they’re famous for (even if its dripping with butter) and work it off at the gym later.

This would all be so much easier if I were a boy!

  • Norma Germain

    I feel your pain. Men, because their muscle mass is greater than women’s, have a higher metabolism and drop weight and keep it off easier than us females. *Sigh*

    Congratulations on your weight loss! Great going and keep up the great work. Seems to me you have a really healthy attitude about the whole thing. (Who can live on salad alone? After all, wine is a must as it has its own health benefits too!)

    I wrote an article on this subject. You might find some helpful tips in it. Let me know if you do. “Weight Loss Success: Five Simple Tips to Help You Get to Your Healthy, Sexy Weight.”

    Looking forward to your next post!

  • Elizabeth

    Congrats to you, CeCe!! Weight loss can be a task, and it’s awesome to see that you’re sticking with it. :)

  • Doll

    thumbs up. 20 pounds is a lot

  • Dont Be a Slut

    Boy, can I relate. Keep up the good work. You can do it. I lost 50 pounds this year and just walked my first marathon. So I truly know how challenging it can be some days …

  • Tracy

    I just stumbled across your blog via facebook actually. It’s funny because I just wrote about this myself today on my own blog. My better half is a lean mean machine and nothing sticks to his towering body. I am however a jello cup with legs and a head and I came this close to stuffing cake up his nostrils yesterday. I am 6 weeks off sugar, flour, dairy and processed food and have lost 22 pounds just by eliminating those… It’s hard to do that I must say though. Congrats on the hardwork. It really is unbelievably hard especially when you have a man who barely lifts a finger and loses five pounds per se. Keep it up my friend.

  • Amanda

    i am in the exact same place with my boyfriend. and when i’m with him i really want to relax and not think about calories or extra work outs, but when monday rolls around after a weekend with him i feel absolutely awful and ‘start over’.

    i have a little less weight to lose (i’m roughly a size 10/12) so somehow that justifies it? that i should eat while i’m young and can stay a normalish size. it’s a slippery slope.

    anyway-love your blog!

  • Shaye

    I know exactly how you feel CeCe I am a size 16 and I tried dieting and watching my calories and got very little I think the whole 3 weeks I dieted and calorie counted I lost 2 pounds. I got frustrated and quit I cut back eat, walking the dog more, and eating healthier food and I’ve lost 8 pounds in 3 weeks. Guess I’m gonna stick to this plan. Thank you for being an inspiration. I’m happy that your boyfriend supports you

  • Sam

    Wuhoo!!! Good for you. 15 pounds in 6 weeks? Amazing.

  • Becca

    I’m so glad you wrote this because I feel the same exact way. Dating is murder on weight loss if you’re not freakishly careful.

    Sounds like you’re doing a great job of finding balance.

    Proud of you.


  • Ophelie

    Love your blog, Cece. I have the opposite problem. I eat way more than my husband. He just doesn’t get hungry and often only eats one meal per day. As a result I feel like a guilty piglet. Oh well, such is life.

  • the Constantly Dramatic One

    Oh God, one of the things I hate mose about men is that. Seriously, it sucks!

  • Guest

    Lots of men struggle with their weight, despite eating sensibly & avoiding junk food.

  • Lady La

    Lots of men struggle with their weight, despite eating sensibly & avoiding junk food.