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I’m a huge fan of yours. I look forward to reading your blog every week. It’s been hard for me because I’m a plus size teenager. I was really lost because I didn’t love myself or think that I could look cute being plus size. One day I googled “plus size blogger” and you came up! I fell in love with you and your words and I have looked at myself differently ever since.
So my problem is I really like this guy who goes to my church. He cute and that’s really all I can tell you about him because I have never talked to him. Is that weird? In a way I think I know him because of his father (the pastor of the church) so I’m going crazy here. I don’t know how these things work, I have never had a boyfriend or anything because guys don’t look at the big girl and if they do, they don’t want others to know.
I don’t know if he would date a plus size girl (or even date a black girl). I guess I just want to see if there could be anything there for me.So anything you have for me would be LOVED!!! and HEPLFUL!!!
Hello my little Plus Size Princess,
Reading your note made me tear up a little! I’m so glad that TBGB can help your self esteem in some small way.
(You have a crush on the pastors son, huh? Now you’re going to have “Son of a Preacher Man” stuck in my head all day!) I’m a little nervous about giving advice like this to a teenager because I feel like high school is the time to have fun and focus on yourself and what you want to accomplish for college etc., but I also remember what it was like to crush on a guy from far away… it can drive a girl crazy! So, I’ll give you my two cents and hopefully some other PSP’s will share their wisdom with you also.
Often times as girls we judge ourselves on whether we have a boyfriend or not and I think that’s kind of ridiculous. When I was in high school, I always had guys calling me and dates to the proms but I didn’t have a “boyfriend” and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
If I were in your position, here’s what I would do: I would focus on becoming friends with your crush. So far, you like him based on what you see not what you know about him. Get to know him if you can (perhaps join a youth group that he’s a part of, or make a point of saying hello to him after service) this way if it turns out he’s a jerk, you wont waste time on him.
If you find out he’s a good guy and your friendship blossoms, I would wait and see what he does. In my experience when a guy likes you, he will let you know. Either he will ask for your phone number, add you on facebook or ask you to hang out. Then you can take it from there.
I just want you to take things slow and focus on making him a friend first (friends make the best boyfriends anyway).
Were you able to read last weeks post about PSP’s and attractive men? The comments will assure you that there are curvy women all over the world who are dating cute boys and when the time is right, you will be one of them….
Keep us posted!
P.S. Any additional comments from other PSP’s who have been in her shoes? Feel free to chime in!