Here’s an update from Diane, who’s email to me sparked the Curvy Convo: “Friends With Benefits?”:
I wanted to update you on my friends with benefits situation that I wrote to you about. I thought a lot about what you said and realized that I was closing myself off to other options because I already had this “placeholder” guy feeding both my physical and emotional needs.
However, the idea of stopping was unappealing and the more I thought about it the more I realized how we WERE in a relationship, just not a committed or public one. I wasn’t opening myself up to the possibility of other options because I didn’t want them. I wanted him. And you were right, when I talked to him about becoming a legitimate couple, he was more than happy to jump on board.
After nearly ten years of friendship, 3 months of friends with benefits, we are now embarking on day six of a relationship. I’m excited to see how things go!
Regardless of what anyone thinks of Friends with Benefits, I’m glad we started out that way. When we first started things, I wasn’t in a good place for a relationship with anyone…But I’m glad this particular case grew into something.
Thank you for your advice…It was really the catalyst I needed!
Thank you for staying in touch with me… you just made my week! I’m proud of you for seeing what you wanted and going after it (I need to take notes from you on that!)
As PSP’s I think we know and understand each others struggles better than anyone else. I’m always grateful when people like you take time to give me advice via comments, tweets etc. and its always humbling to see an email from a Plus Size Princess asking me for my thoughts on things.
I look forward to more Curvy Conversations!