When a Man Gives You His Business Card: (Exhibit C)

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After reading your comments and Tweets I decided to email the famous photographer. I already had my reservations because in my opinion he was passive in giving me his business card. But as some of you pointed out, maybe he was trying to gauge my interest. I decided to email him and our correspondence went as follows (I’m pink, he’s blue):

Hi (Famous Photog), It was lovely to meet you the other day… I can’t wait to see more of your work. My number is below, feel free to give me a call. -CeCe

Hi CeCe, It was very nice meeting you the other day as well. You have such a wonderful smile! Below are some links to some more of my work. I look forward to staying in touch, and hopefully seeing you some time soon. With warm regards, (Famous Photog)

I know I’m already holding the business card thing against him, but at this point I’m thinking his emails are pretty luke-warm, but before I could decide what to do I got another email from him….

Hi CeCe, I hope this finds you very well. I wanted to indicate a few new publications and an upcoming event that might interest you. Please feel free to pass this on to any of your friends or family that might be interested. Finally, I will be participating in a Haiti Benefit on Tuesday. Many photographers will show and discuss their photographs of the devastating earthquake that struck Haiti. If you, or anyone you know in the NY area, would be interested in attending, more information can be found at the website I’ve attached.

Okay, now I’m feeling like this is a networking connection. But maybe the benefit invite was a casual way to see me again? Either way, I couldn’t attend so I decided to email him and let him know….

Hi there, I got both of your emails. I looked at your links and your work is amazing (as I’m sure you already know). Thanks for the event info, I wish I could attend the Haiti benefit, but I have a previous engagement. Perhaps another time?

Thanks for your kind words regarding my work. I look forward to staying in touch and hopefully seeing you again some time soon. With warm regards, (famous photog)

Okay, seriously?! What’s up with this “staying in touch and hopefully seeing you again sometime soon” refrain? He’s said it in almost every email to me, but he hasn’t made moves to make it happen. He’s 1.) Passive or 2.) Not that into me. Both of which I predicted from the beginning! But for the sake of argument, I decided to email him as plainly as I knew how.

Sounds good! Just let me know when you’d like to get together.

Yeah. I never heard from him again.

So far I feel like my predictions about men who give their business cards are right. We’ll see if the Apple Store Guy will prove me wrong.

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  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/09514481580609757683 ♥ Shrinking Kenz ♥

    I kind of feel like some men (not just in NY, but definitely here) are more excited about impressing women than dating them. Obviously, I don't know anything about this guy, but he sounds as though he needs his ego stroked a bit more…screw that.

    Maybe Apple store guy will prove you wrong…The possibility of a discounted iPad is worth the effort to find out. ;)

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/16085656536778286348 Emily Sandford

    Looking forward to hearing about what happens with the Apple store guy.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/12384503085670445419 Blossom

    Yeah, that whole thing was kind of "meh". Sounds like he wants more people to see his work is all.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/05856569796210470854 Megs

    I have been finding that guys are getting a little to passive in general. I'm not here to stroke your ego and I'm not expecting you to stroke mine. Just make me laugh.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/18213207493213310434 B. Good

    Well…before we write this guy off entirely…from reading this post and the previous post from when he gave you his card…it sounds like he really was just "networking" his business, and not looking for a date.

    You may have jumped to conclusions on this one, based on his prior advances towards you. But it doesn't sound like he was ever interested in a "date", per se'. Just marketing his events and his work.

  • Anonymous

    I am a guy what a jerk he is I am not going to give my card if I am not intrested in a female if its about work then I will tell her it's about work. I am kind of shy so if I give a lady my info and she calls you damm right I want to know when we are going to see each other.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10456228024529738574 ~Sarafina~

    Ouch. Well I originally thought you should contact photog man, but I have to say, I agree with your assessment that he's looking to network.

    Bummer.

    Hey, at least you tried! and he wasn't a total jerkface!

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/15479980691366086356 Punky

    As I said before I think it's lame that he gave you his business card, but I didn't know he was an idiot too. You'd think he had his e-mail on auto reply with the "warm regards" junk!

    I bet Apple Store guy doesn't have any balls either.

  • http://blog.daddysplace2.com Mike Lowrey

    When we hand a woman a business card alone it is like saying, you're cute but I'm not interested enough in you to get your number or to actually give you my cel number.

    If you call cool, and if I'm bored one day we can chill. If you don't call, who cares.

    If a guy is into you he's going to get your number, give you his and give you his business card just in case. This also allows the guy to show the woman he has a career and not just a 9-5 job.

    Every so often I will give out my card just to save time. It lets her know that I'm interested. From there if she's interested too, she'll call. But mostly we don't care if the business card chick ever calls.